If you have to coddle someone in a minor inconvenience like a power outage, how do you think they'll react if the SHTF? You aren't helping them by "making things easier", you're hurting them. You only help them by helping them learn. What happens to a SO if we're hurt, missing or dead and they've come to expect someone "yes dear" ing them. Do you think someone else will coddle them or take advantage of them. They're not second class citizens, and shouldn't be treated as such. This isn't the Victorian era.