I agree with those who suggest you go minimum-carry. Even though as a chick I could carry a purse the size and weight of a bowling ball, I often go minimum-carry when I dress up and go out with friends. Trendy women's clothes, even simple blue jeans (at least the slim fits I like to wear), don't favor the gal who likes to EDC a bunch of gear.

I've also taken to using bags and cases that are very "civilian" friendly. My EDC bag is the Soho from Overland Equipment. My PSK is housed in an Eddie Bauer All-in-One Survival Kit case (threw out most the gear that came with it, it was JUNK) with a bunch of other gear. It's poppy red, looks like a CD player case, and it's branded on the outside, so I don't get any comments when someone sees it. If I'm using one of my glittery evening bags, I can still have my minimum-carry stuff.

I guess my point is that it's necessary to have versatile gear choices and carry modes.