You are no alone.

When my kids were in that age, I bought them fluorescent/reflective vests and helmets to wear when they play with bicycles. Since NO ONE around wore any safety stuff, they were too embarrased to wear them in front of their peers . I ended up sticking reflective tape all around their bicycles.

I think that more and more doses of love and FRIENDSHIP are essential. We dads and moms sometimes take parenting too far with instructions and advices that we don't notice we are not that much FUN compared to their peers.

All I can suggest is to go back in time, YOU become a teenager yourself, and have more fun with them. When we becomes part of their FRIEND group (rather than parents) , they would call us more often.