Hi Jeanette,

Most of my adult life I have been involved in leadership situations to some degree. I have had the benefit of both military and corporate education. Very simply, leadership is getting someone to do what YOU want them to.

If these friends of yours will not cooperate now, they will not cooperate in the future. Leadership may certainly shift at any moment to anyone in a group, so you do not need to concern yourself with exerting your will on anyone else. You seem to be seeking consensus and that is good. Unfortunately, it appears that your friends are not.

I respectfully suggest that you make plans without them. Find folks who WILL work WITH you.

Good luck!