I had my wife read your specific post in this huge thread, and it seems to have actually made a difference.
She asked me what kind of gear I carry every day, to work and in my car, and asked me to "set her up."
While all the crap I carry would really be too much for her, I'm sure I can figure something out. Grin.
I tip my hat in your direction. You message seems to have accomplished what I could not in almost 12 years of marriage.
Amazing what the right piece of information can do at the right time.
Gratefully,
Craig