"...the pain of making such an awful mistake..."

True. But, having had to pick up more dead children/babies than I care to remember because mom and dad failed to put them in seat belts/child restraint seats, then ended up rolling the car, throwing the kids out to their death, I have a lot less sympathy for them than I used to. Make an honest mistake and kill your kid, I have all the sympathy in the world. Do something really really stupid, don't come looking for sympathy from me...