My grandparents on my mothers side were both put in homes and all the family were always down on my mother and aunt who lived closest as to how bad they were for doing it. But my mothers parents got mean when they got old and would fight any kind of medicine, would fight any meal, fight any bath and my mother and her sister who lives closest were both under 5' tall and were unable to control either of them. Her mother had all kinds of health problems from years of smoking so she needed to be hooked up to a lot of machines and take a lot of medicine one being oxygen and that wasn't safe in their home with the rest of the family smoking around it. Her father was color blind so he would run red lights all the time and would take trips across multiple states to visit family. My mother got home to sign power of attorney so when the police called to tell her he hit someone she could just give his insurance info, they didn't bother to file the hit and run charges he would never show to court anyway as ne never beleived he did anything which is why she got him to sign the power of attorney since he would refuse to give any info after a hit and run so it was in his best interest. I see my mother already getting that way, she will tell me something and then insist she didn't, she gave me the date of he family reunion one year on the instant messenger and a couple weeks prior to it we got an e-mail asking why we didn't come, turns out she gave me the wrong date. When I asked her about it she insisted she gave me the correct date until I pasted the old conversation back to her and she didn't talk to me for a couple weeks. She already knows that if she gets as mean as her parents she's going to a home .