I've noticed that a long (1-1 1/2 hours one way) is not so bad when you are single and in your 20's, or even 30's. It is a lot worse when you are older and the family is waiting for you. 2-3 hours a day of lost family time adds up to a lot. More than just the added up time.

I'm lucky now that my commute is 7 miles, and 20 minutes on a bad day. I would never go back to a long commute. I'd trade off income or where I live. You can't replace family.