Wildman, so sorry to hear of your trouble. It probably doesn't help to tell you that many, many people have gone through and are going through this.

How are your parents mentally? It seems to me they still should have a say in who gets what when. Or is it a situation where some of the siblings are brow-beating one or both of them?

If they are still able to do so, its not too late to do a living trust and put all this in the hands of a trustee with specific instructions. The siblings will need to agree to back way, way off of the process, and let the lawyer handle it directly with the parents. The lawyer should either be someone the parents have used before or someone no one has any past connection with - probably the latter is better. He or she will represent the parent's interests, and not anyone else's.

Good luck, friend.


Frank2135