Wildman,

Sorry to hear whats going on. Sad to say, but i have family members like this in my family. Some more cold then what you described.

I am a believer that in cases like that, i'd rather pay lawyers then family members - even if its the same amount or even more. I can't tell you how many of 'those' family members (if they do crap like that, they aren't family) are out of my life; legally and socially.

My only recourse are legal channels as i refuse to deal with them. To me, its not worth the pain to my family and myself.

I hope it doesn't come down to that for you, but I do hope that everything works out. To be together for over 30 years, then forcefully separated by your own kids... damn, thats cold.

Kris