Equipped To Survive Equipped To Survive® Presents
The Survival Forum
Where do you want to go on ETS?

Page 1 of 3 1 2 3 >
Topic Options
#189654 - 12/01/09 05:38 PM In Real Life Contacts Between Members
MartinFocazio Offline


Registered: 01/21/03
Posts: 2155
Loc: Bucks County PA
I have noticed of late that some members are attempting to contact one another in real life. While I appreciate this sentiment (I'd love to meet many of you in person), some of our members are minors, and most of our members do not provide easily verifiable credentials to connect a user profile to an actual person.

As such, I urge you to exercise a prudent level of background research on the person you are contacting here. One level of research you can conduct is asking for the person's real name and email address via a private message. There are tool for doing more research about a person - Zabasearch.com is one.

Always meet in a public place (the mall is always a good idea) and don't be too specific in where you're going to meet - just say "by the central fountain, I'll be wearing a blue shirt" - not "I will be at the Walden Books main entrance, wearing a Chicago Bulls Jersey and green sweats, I have glasses and blue hair and I drive an unmarked white van with no windows." - that way if the person gives you a bad vibe you can just keep walking.

Never meet in a car, or in a parking lot.

FWIW, I've met plenty of people In Real Life from my online activities - only once did I feel that things were "off" and that's a whole different story.

#189656 - 12/01/09 05:54 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: MartinFocazio]
Basecamp Offline

Registered: 11/08/07
Posts: 107
Loc: PNW
Do members of a region ever get together, as a group, to practice any skills or for any other reason?

#189662 - 12/01/09 06:44 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: MartinFocazio]
Nicodemus Offline

Registered: 10/30/05
Posts: 1341
Loc: Virginia, US
I've never really thought about it before, but that is some good advice on meeting anyone IRL that you've met online.
"Learn survival skills when your life doesn't depend on it."

#189663 - 12/01/09 06:57 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: Nicodemus]
JohnE Offline

Registered: 06/10/08
Posts: 601
Loc: Southern Cal
What is this "real life" you speak of...?


"and all the lousy little poets
comin round
tryin' to sound like Charlie Manson"

The Future/Leonard Cohen

#189666 - 12/01/09 07:09 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: JohnE]
haertig Offline

Registered: 03/13/05
Posts: 2152
Loc: Colorado
The only time I've met online friends "in real life" was when I drove 400 miles to Kansas specifically for that. We all met at a shooting range, and everybody was armed to the teeth ... and then some. I think things were pretty secure around there! Of course we didn't take firearms just because we were meeting each other, ... after all, it WAS a two day shooting event we were attending! What a great bunch of folks and a super fun event. So don't avoid meeting others because of fear, you'll miss out on a lot of fun, but be sure where/how you're meeting is safe and secure.

Edited by haertig (12/01/09 07:11 PM)

#189668 - 12/01/09 07:13 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: haertig]
JBMat Offline
Old Hand

Registered: 03/03/09
Posts: 745
Loc: NC
I tried that "real life" stuff one time and boy was it a pain in the sitdown.

Anyhow, rule of thumb, if you feel "funny" about meeting someone, don't. And I echo Martin's post also.

#189669 - 12/01/09 07:23 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: JBMat]
Todd W Offline
Product Tester

Registered: 11/14/04
Posts: 1928
Loc: Mountains of CA
I've met hundreds of people in real life from multiple forums, most all went well.

Doug's advice is great, and my personal advice is to don't meet someone you JUST met online. Get to know their "online" persona, and also do some google searches on their name, email, etc...

Meeting in groups is good too.
Self Sufficient Home - Our journey to self sufficiency.

#189670 - 12/01/09 07:46 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: Todd W]
comms Offline

Registered: 07/23/08
Posts: 1502
Loc: Mesa, AZ
In my endurance racing life, I have met dozens of people that I only knew from online. In fact one just stayed with my family last week for 5 nights when she flew in for a race. Of course there really is no hidden life in that particular online environment.

On ETS for example or ZS, I haven't had a F2F with anyone, though I will say that the PM's, trades and purchases I have done with people have been exemplary. I would meet any of those people based on those interactions.

Key is to let others know what is happening in case of any 'drama'.
Don't just survive. Thrive.

#189672 - 12/01/09 09:25 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: comms]
kd7fqd Offline

Registered: 08/07/05
Posts: 359
Loc: Saratoga Springs,Utah,USA
My family went to PHX two yrs ago and my son and I met DR himself, had a great lunch

BTW Doug what was the name of that restaurant?


Mike D
EDC: Samsung Galaxy Note 2,DR PSK, Swiss Army Champ, Leatherman Blast
My Blog emergencybobs.wordpress.com

#189675 - 12/01/09 11:53 PM Re: In Real Life Contacts Between Members [Re: ]
Todd W Offline
Product Tester

Registered: 11/14/04
Posts: 1928
Loc: Mountains of CA
Originally Posted By: IzzyJG99
I haven't met anyone off of ETS yet. Though I am sure if I end up in the Texas area I'll go hang out with Blast. We'll go get attacked by cats, killer bees and forced to hide underwater while breathing through our titanium EDC straws.

Don't forget to come fix up my house... hehehe
Self Sufficient Home - Our journey to self sufficiency.

Page 1 of 3 1 2 3 >

Moderator:  Alan_Romania, Blast, cliff, Hikin_Jim 
Su M Tu W Th F Sa
1 2 3 4 5 6
7 8 9 10 11 12 13
14 15 16 17 18 19 20
21 22 23 24 25 26 27
28 29 30
Who's Online
2 registered (Jeanette_Isabelle, katarin), 88 Guests and 3 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Sundiver70, Keh, ngezzo123, korneliakiel, Barry1968
5317 Registered Users
Newest Posts
True Story -- The Real Lord of the Flies
by hikermor
Yesterday at 08:00 PM
Boring gear
by dougwalkabout
Yesterday at 03:44 PM
Happy First Day of Hurricane Season
by wildman800
Yesterday at 01:06 PM
Recent and Ongoing Survival Incidents
by haertig
06/04/20 09:26 PM
The Very Useful car blanket
by TeacherRO
06/04/20 07:12 PM
Monthly reminder - tech
by TeacherRO
06/04/20 07:10 PM
Updated Every Day Carry (EDC)
by TeacherRO
06/04/20 07:10 PM
Escape and Evade Kits
by Ren
06/04/20 12:18 PM
Newest Images
Tiny knife / wrench
Handmade knives
2"x2" Glass Signal Mirror, Retroreflective Mesh
Trade School Tool Kit
My Pocket Kit

WARNING & DISCLAIMER: SELECT AND USE OUTDOORS AND SURVIVAL EQUIPMENT, SUPPLIES AND TECHNIQUES AT YOUR OWN RISK. Information posted on this forum is not reviewed for accuracy and may not be reliable, use at your own risk. Please review the full WARNING & DISCLAIMER about information on this site.