What a well written and instructive article, Chris. (And your analysis, too Doug). As I was reading the opening moments, I had a deja vu experience of sorts:<br><br>Have you noticed (I have, particularly in my recent misadventures) that early-on there was an "assertive opportunity" to decline, to correct, to insist on some changes, etc. I didn't want to be a "sissy", a "whiner", "old lady" etc., so AGAINST MY BETTER JUDGMENT, I went on with the plan. And there were problems.<br><br>I often wonder if the best survival tool I could develop would be the strength to tell my comrade "No.. heck no... not unless we do xyz... count me out!" I wish Chris had been running the show from the start.<br><br>