I have a "emergency story" from when my wife and I lived in earthquake country.
Dispite the fact she was a native Californian, while I was a transplant, in every nighttime earthquake, she would jump up and run for the kids rooms while I would lie in bed waiting for the shaking to stop.
I told her the generic advice was to wait for the shaking to stop because falling and breaking a leg would be of no use in the event of the Big One. I never was able to break her of the Super Mom response.
Was she right? Was I right? Who knows, but in the event of an emergency we had completely opposite responses.
After sucessfully raising two children to adulthood through every emergency common, my experience says having multiple responses that can be executed rapidly may be preferable to hashing out the best slower response.
Women and men can be great teammates, even in solo arrangements.