I have a daughter, this is how I feel too, I put my daughter first, my families needs second, and myself and my needs and wants a much, much, much distant third..
My daughters mother on the other hand continues to feel that she should come first.. when her selfishness got in the way of the best interest of the family, we had problems.. we are no longer together.. I am the one careing for our daughter, after her mother abandoned us.. so much for maternal instincts.

The only thing I can think is that some people just don't get it, don't want to get it, and arn't going to get it..