I try to pay attention when the first thing goes wrong, or at worst, the second. I start focusing on what would be the best thing to do now that things have changed. I try to consider all my options and to move slowly, and to re-evaluate very frequently.

I'm afraid that is what bothered me most about the Kim situation: he went too far (20+ miles) under poor conditions (darkness, snowstorm, bad road). Sometimes, moving forward is the worst thing you can possibly do.

On the James Kim thread, one of the members here mentioned something about not wanting to backtrack 'in front of the women' (something like that). My first reaction to that was, HOW STUPID! (sorry). If I'm your passenger, and you think something is wrong, I would LOVE YOU for saying, 'I think we're going the wrong way, and we should go back to where I was sure we were okay'. You would not hear one single negative word from me -- not one! I would hear you balancing my life against your ego, and I won. And if you think you would hear something different from the woman (women) in your life, well....... I guess I'd better not say what I'm thinking. <img src="/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Sue