A paramilitary group can be defined as any group organized in a military fashion, especially if they are meant to act (lawful or unlawful) in the place of a military unit. What you are really trying to find out really depends on who is asking the question. These people who ask you if you are a paramilitary type: what is their definition of it? That is the question you really need to ask. Paramilitary in general is a broad term to define.