I would say that your wife's kit should be able to stand on it's own. Getting seperated is a possibility that should be thought about, so she should get the essentials as well. And if you are bugged longer than you planned, the extra gear will be welcome.
Unless she isn't essential and just nice to have. Which I'm hoping isn't the case.
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