I agree with Sue as well, but I don't think it needs to get personal. Just because a person has an issue defending themselves, it's not right to pass judgement and then assume facts not in evidence to make a point.

Let's just look at this rationally and try to help her out instead of lambasting her. I think there's plenty of argument on here for why she should think twice about her stance and several have made suggestions on what else can be done. I'd say I'd rather have her in the fold and learning and changing her mind slowly than to just say her viewpoint is invalid and make her feel like dirt.

This reminds me of a time when there was a nice woman in my karate class who had been abused. She was reluctant to "spar" with anyone, but I finally convinced her to try it out with me and we built up rapport. After some very encouraging signs that she was "getting it" and was starting to come out of her shell, another guy in class got a little to carried away and didn't think about her situation. She never came back. I hate to see that happen because it tends to perpetuate the situation. I'd hate to see that happen here.