Hi Kuovonne,
I would like to point out that I certainly wasn't singling you out and in fact just read your response here AFTER posting to your other thread on guns. Again, I think my argument stands and you haven't convinced me otherwise, and obviously your DH has started to lead you down that path as well.
I would say that by and large, this isn't behavior that would get one killed, but then there are predators, sickos, addicts, and any number of hooligans more than willing to rob, rape, or rip you up. And as I said in the other thread, kids change the equation a great deal since they are reliant on you for protection and wise decisions. I wasn't dialing up the rhetoric to turn anyone away, and in fact, although I agree with what Sue said in the other thread, I was trying to say it in a more positive and hopefully encouraging manner and now that you've stated your position, I would try to do the same here.
I was breaking lugs on my grandfather's semi when I was a wee lad. I had to dangle from a 2m breaker bar (basically a solid tube attached to the end of a lug wrench to increase leverage) and I'm quite certain you could take off any lugs with something similar. Taking a few minutes with your husband to do things like change the oil, fill the break/antifreeze/windshield fluid could make all the difference and we all build up skills over time. The first time my brother attempted to change his own oil, he didn't drain the oil first, and he punctured the filter with a screwdriver to take it off (not knowing about clamps that do the job and realizing his hands wouldn't be enough). After spilling 4 quarts of black on my grandfather's pristine driveway, we all got some schooling. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Listen, there's no reason to not learn, and I think your hubby is willing to help. It's hard to find time with Baby, but do a little bit here and there and learn to protect yourself. Not everyone who stops is friendly.
And yes, I've stopped many times to help people, but I make sure I'M safe first and it's never when I have my family with me. I've offered to call for help many times when the situation was uncertain... always from a ways away, with the car running and with me yelling out the window.
I certainly wouldn't antagonize. I'm just pointing out the facts as I see them. Hopefully knowing the danger helps to motivate instead of turtle in. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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