Hey I agree with 99% of what you post here... You sound like you walk the walk... <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I do not run fmj by design... I have carried it because I didn't have access to anything else. I also admit I would not carry it by choice if offered other choices. Truth be told, my EDC bullet of choice for 9mm is the glaser. I would hate to endanger innocents/neighbors more than I had to. I also like the 12ga for home defense, and I like the frangible "LOCK BUSTER" slugs for that purpose.. Although I will state that it is muy overkill...
I can only base my statements on what have experienced while tactical shooting and hunting small/medium game. In that respect I think I have a pretty good idea what a shot/hand/long/gun does to non-human living tissue. I have not seen the dramatic "T.V." type impacts that are commonly imagined as the result of firing a (even large caliber) gun at living, breathing, trying like heck to survive, animal.