A lot has been said however, it still, in my mind comes down to what kind of person you are as a parent. Male or female - single or wed. If you are a good person and have the best in mind for your KIDS.... Not your own personal comfort or agenda. I have noticed that parents are looking to their children for approval when making descisions. At a certain point, we the adults, have to descide what is the best action for our children. I have also noticed that parenting has become a popularity contest. Competing against your spouse, your children, teachers, other parents. I would like for everyone to get the message that these children are going to be the adults in charge while we are in a nursing home hoping that they will make the best descisions for us. With that in mind, what are we teaching our youth?? Twist your brains around that one.