I think what you are doing is commendable. Forget the backpacking gear. Tell her to stay put at her office or vehicle unless she absolutely has to move. I would second the suggestions that you keep it simple: raingear, bottled water, a wool blanket or two. I would include some good pepper spray. (It's been my experience that women are very willing to carry it.) The suggestion of a SAK is a good one. A couple of large cans of Sterno and a Bic lighter or two will provide instant heat.

Forget the trapping devices. Include a few food bars if you want, or better yet, put in some canned food that she can stomach plus a hand-crank can opener. Remember, this is a car kit so weight should not be an issue even if bulk is.

Any person not suffering from a head injury can use all of the above without training.

Regards, Vince