This weekend, one week before her wedding, my 27-yr old daughter was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. This diagnosis was precipitated by a seizure and some more information that came out over the course of the ER visit and the hospitalization that followed. She is scheduled for release tomorrow. She will then prepare for the trip to Cancun, Mexico for the wedding next Saturday.

So, where is this leading? Let me tell you. I am a professional cynic who is fluent in sarcasm. What I want to say is that when initially dealing with someone who has just received devastating news, I have this piece of advice - SHUT UP! Nothing gets people more ticked off than to hear the stupid platitudes of "I'm sorry" or "I had an aunt who had her thyroid removed" or other such nonsense. The best thing to do is shut up and stand beside them in silent strength. Hug them. Sit with them. Take a walk with them. Do not offer anything unless you are ready to follow through. A lot of this comes from my life experiences over the years and I am somewhat jaded by the platitudinous shallowness. I know these situations are new to many and uncomfortable for all. But, you cannot do any better than being a pillar of strength, warmth, and love.

MoBOB a.k.a. GRUMPY

She'll be in my thoughts.

Wow...major suckage.
She'll be added to my prayer wall.
-Blast

Those are words of wisdom, Bob. I often don't know how to comfort someone who's received such terrible news. Like you said, platitudes just don't seem right. Thanks for the lesson.

Wise words, MoBOB. Never patronize someone who is, with every good reason, mad as h___ at the entire bloody universe.

Here's hoping your daughter finds her equilibrium and comes out swinging at the bell.

Very wise words. And they provide us with a lesson or two
Things beyond preparedness and survival ....

You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers

Agreed wise words have been spoken.

I agree MoBob! You are right on the money!

I have a friend who is a middle age women who has dealt with MS for years. I can see if she may have some practical advice on managing it if you like.

I hope her spouse-to-be is up to the challenge.

Some lengthy soul-searching would be appropriate.

(speaking as the well spouse of someone who has been chronically ill for 28 years)