Sure, thanks MoBOB.

When I watched Tour of Duty, I liked Zeke Anderson's character , his relation with his men, and relation with his boss (Lt. Goldman). And I watched him closely in different (relaxed or stressed)situations and just luiked that subtle humour in him. This interest in characters developed from my frustration of some diffcult charcters around me.

Regarding this thread, I wrote the question to show that people are different and what goes in everyone's mind is maybe different from others. So we should always expect others to focus on different angles of any subject, have their own preferences in any situation, and we always have the option to respnd or ignore.

Thank you MoBOB. You choose not to get frustrated with my question. You also chose not to ignore the question, but to generously and patiently answer the question and enlighten me in this area. Many thanks.

And thanks Russ

Back to original subject

About getting older , I have become less mobile , and less enthusiastic to move. It is creating a gap between me and family because I don't like travelling or even going to the mall. Fortunatley the kids drive now, so they do most of the shopping and other errands.

A few months ago we travelled together, but I didn't see it as a "vacation" for me, I saw it as a "duty" being the family head to give everyone some good time. That vacation ended without me feeling I had enjoyed it. It was just another duty to fulfill. And was frustretd when I was asked at work ( where did you travel in your vacation? ). It was a given that travel IS what vacation is !!

Actually, a REAL vacation for me is to be left alone in some remote ( but safe ) place , for 2-3 days. No one around, no phone calls, nothing. In that period, I want with me a bunch of reading materials and my bug out bag to test in those 2-3 days. That would be a REAL vacation for me. No duties, no malls, no calls, no nothing but a bunch of books, and a cuppa coffee on an esbit stove.

I don't know if this counts as a sign of "getting old" ..
I think it is .

I really dont know what to say to this topic.We age,we slow down,we WILL have health issues...it is what it is.Life.

Now the controversy,sheesh,I DO know life is too short to get bent about it,let it go is my feeling,its just a thread,sheesh!

Count your blessings,every day you awake and are cognizant and functional is a wonderful day.

I totally agree Chisel and follow the same suit. However the pangs of old age...errr..maturity, such as sore joints and other ailements really disrupt my mental focus at times. I, despite my disabilities, was feeling pretty good about life and everything (excluding current politics)the other week. Then NH seacoast got nailed with back to back snow storms. I accepted the fact that I am just in no shape to shovel so much anymore. Gonna get a mean snowblower for next year. Dont mind getting older especially when my goal is to exit this life and get into peaceful eternity in Heaven. But man, stuff sure does change between 18 and 52