Taking a seat in the over-packers section of the room and paying close attention.
My edc pack weighed 15 pounds last week, including a full water bottle, snacks, ereader, and my polyfil vest with my usual out-of-the-house edc gear in pockets. I removed the big FAK this week but hardly noticed a difference. In my defense, I rarely carry it. I usually leave it in my Jeep unless I'm a fair trek away. (i.e. when I take the subway.)
My usual edc rides well in my vest jacket pockets. It's a bit heavier thsn most people's jackets but, in my defense, I do not carry a purse in the winter. I prefer pocket carry most of the time as long as I'm wearing a vest/jacket/coat. (Less likely to get seperated from me or forgotten by me.)
My absolute bear minimum is my wedding rings, watch, a couple of hair elastics, and a micro photon II that I wear on a 3 ft paracord necklace.