I grew up in a small, small town on Long Island, New York. Dad drove to work 1+ hour a day each way. It was nice growing up, very much in the country, but later when I became an adult, and ended up doing a commute of about the same length, I realized that, IMO, the cost is too high. Life is too short to spend 3 hours a day going to and from work. Time with the family is more valuable.

Better to live near where you work. I realize this is not always, or even frequently possible.