Yeah, I definitely know what a goretex jacket without DWR feels like. I've had the same Marmot goretex jacket for years and have re-treated it with Grangers DWR and Nikwax. Unfortunately nothing seems to work anymore and it barely beads water. I guess the wetness felt underneath was my own sweat due to loss of breathability. Oh well, at least I got many good years out of that jacket.
It's old school but I've had at least one success regaining water repellent finish when other methods failed by spraying on several coats of silicone. I don't know if it made any difference but I took some care to pull the membrane away from the outer shell when I sprayed on the silicone. Two coats, allowed outside to dry (VOCs and it smells like a bus) in between, allowed me to return my lovingly patched 'old dependable' to second line service as work-wear and riding in the truck.
Silicone isn't all that durable. Recoating every year is usually necessary but after two or three years of getting a regular dose it does seem to get saturated and last longer.
Nikwax makes some good DWR finishes. I used one that gets washed in and polished in the dryer. I've used that a bit but it seems inconsistent. Sometimes extra drying time on high seems to activate it. Other times, not. A friend suggested that some inconsistency may have to do with how long it has been sitting on the shelf.