Thanks to all for their kind wishes. They are appreciated.

As Roger's only heir, my wife hasn't had any real problems regarding Roger's things. Roger's brothers bent over backwards to help us, and no one contested anything my wife chose to do, or to keep.

The problems with his bank accounts are being sorted out without (so far) having to resort to a lawyer, and hopefully, in a month or so, we'll not only be able to make up for the funeral, and travel expenses, but be able to pay of a few other bills and pad the children's college funds. Though this is going well so far, it would have been a non-issue had there been a will, or had my wife been listed as a beneficiary on the accounts.

The worst problems were trying to figure out how to lay him to rest in a way that both he and the family would have approved of, and the fact that we were not able to find two of his firearms.

Having to plan a service for him was a nightmare for my wife. We knew more about what he didn't want than what he did. Trust me, this is not something you want your family to have to deal with; they will be having a hard enough time without having to haggle with funeral directors, or check with family members on every detail. Let them know what you want, and then make sure they have the means to pay for it. Funeral services are not cheap.

The firearms still bother me. More than anything else, these should be accounted for. I would feel so much better if we knew where they were, even if they had been sold, or given away. As I mentioned before, we did find an umarked safe deposit box key, hopefully we'll eventually get a bill for it and find the guns there.

Take care,

Andy