Good thoughts Susan, it's been a long time since I had lessons in manners -- they didn't take. I found the article at the AoM site on
Cultivating your gratitude very good reading. I say thanks and leave a tip, but that's rather mechanical and doesn't really communicate. A tip doesn't say thank you, "Thank you" says it.
. . .We often assume that people either get thanks from other people or that they just somehow know how grateful we are for what they do. We are usually wrong on both counts. . .