These thoughts originated over on the 'Gentleman's Pocketknife' thread.

From a (cynical) woman's point of view...

Do men of any age have ANY IDEA how decent manners elevates their 'rating' with women? I mean, REALLY. Those who don't have manners obviously don't have a clue, and I'm sure the ones who do don't realize what an incredible difference it makes.

A gentleman (in the original meaning of the word) today stands out like a beacon among a bunch of rocks --- they absolutely GLOW. And it's mainly because there aren't many of them.

Most guys behave like two-year-olds their entire lives. They must think the world revolves around them and what they want. They want sex and a mommy to take care of them (Freud was probably dead on with his Oedipus complex). Well, grow up and join the Real World. It's not too late to take lessons in manners.

What is truly amazing to women is that most men haven't got a single clue about how to go about getting what they want, and it's really, really basic:

STANDOUT MANNERS WILL GET YOU SEX.

How's that? Simple enough?

Here are a few really important basics:
* Don't spit. It isn't macho, it's repulsive.
* STOP LYING! Lying as easily as you breathe is NOT a recommendation.
* If you smoke or chew, stop. Licking an ashtray or spittoon is not high on any woman's list.
* If you don't know how to dress properly, LEARN. That scruffy look doesn't attract the higher-class woman. Why would she want to appear to be supporting a homeless guy?
* If you meet a woman you like and she doesn't like you, you aren't going to change her mind, so move on.
* Don't call, text or email a woman 30 times a day, even if she isn't working, as it means you're either a control freak or a stalker-type personality, and both are creepy.
* Public displays of affection are just showing off.
* Avoid showing off. Guys go for big things, women want you to do the little things. This alone can make or break you.
* Learn to take care of yourself. If you can't do your own laundry, clean your own place, take out the garbage before it smells, pick up your own dry cleaning or have rudimentary cooking skills, hire a maid. Ditto babysitters.
* If a relationship starts okay and then deteriorates, don't force her to get a restraining order.


Bernard Bailey: "When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be disappointed to discover they are not it."

Sue