I am not sure how your planbs work out-but i would have some seperate rucksacks for all the family-i would give your wife a similar size pack to you and give your children(if you have any) very small day sacks!
I would use a technical outdoor sack-have a look at
www.karrimor.comthey come highly reccomended-own a number of thier sacks-i am not sure if they available in the usa!-I'VE just checked and they do-
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