and for the parents, if they go along as an adult leader, wich I recommend, to leave their scouts alone.
That is hugely important. big Big BIG!!
In my troop I've become the "let the boys do it" police. And that comes from a guy whose son has some special 'issues'.
BTW I don't like to use the word 'needs', because the only thing he needs is patience from the other Scouts and adults because he can be a bit slow at doing/understanding things and he has a tendancy toward meltdowns when things don't go well - all due to a known medical issue - he really does try hard though.
It is all too common for me to tell a parent/adult leader: "Sit down! Let the Scouts do it" and "As your (senior) patrol leader." Some adults I'll literally have to follow them around and insist that they step back and let the Scouts handle things.
My biggest battles have been with the Troop Committee Chair who wouldn't let the Scouts participate in planning and didn't beleive in training, and to a lesser extent with the Scoutmaster (the Chair's husband) who was great, but didn't give consistent expectations and messages. It was hard for Scouts to keep up with his ever-changing rules & expectations. They both are stepping down. Hopefully the future will be bright.
Scouts are remarkably resourceful and capable IF adults stay back and let them fail a bit and celebrate their successes. Let them get uncomfortable so they'll learn from the experience. Let the older Scouts be the coaches.
We tried doing the New Scout Patrol thing, but we found that the older Troop Guides didnt' hang with the younger Scouts enough for it to work well. Next time we have younger Scouts we'll encourage patrol formation such that it mixes them with older Scouts more. AND we'll have youth leader training within a few weeks of elections.