Eeek - after mentally checking things off, seems like I'm in with my fellow paranoids.

In my mind, at least, I consider a match safe of strike-anywhere matches my primary and a BSA HotSpark as my secondary. But here's what I actually carry:

All the time: BIC (orange color) and BSA Hot Spark clipped to a tiny lock back (in separate pockets)

Add to pockets when out: Match safe with strike-anywhere matches; situationally a Zippo (cold weather and/or extended trip - refill with my stove fuel)

Ready pack (contents bag-in-bag transfer to larger pack when warranted and items distributed for various reasons):

Second (orange) Bic
Second match safe
Box of Coughlin's wind and water proof matches in a vacuum sealed packet
second box of Coughlin's wind and water proof matches in baggie for demonstrations
second ferrocerium rod (varies with trip purpose; I don't like mag-bars, but usually it's a Doan because so many boys have them)
Sparklite kit full up
Box of *small* strike-anywhere's in a Zip Loc (loaner matches)
small Altoids tin stuffed full of vasoline-soaked cottonballs with three purpose-sized Ranger bands (edge seal and two to keep lid locked down; also have fire-starting application)
Char tin (RWS pellet tin) full of char cloth
ZipLoc bag of seasonally gathered native items such as milkweed down, dried upland grass, nettle stalks, bracket fungus, etc.
ZipLoc with 3-4 5" hanks of natural fiber rope (I untwist and tease a hank out into a bird's nest and call it "dried grass" - carried for teaching/illustrative uses)
spent Bic converted to a poor-man's Sparklite stuffed with vasoline-soaked cotton balls
1-2 damp-resistent book matches integral to MRE Accessory Packs (carried in the unopened acc. packs)
"permanent match" with the batting soaked in lighter fluid
Esbit stove
Trioxane bars
PSK; standard contents

other dual-use items (e.g ranger bands, TP, etc)

BUT - the reasons I carry all that stuff is because I am usually with Scouts these days and I demonstrate/teach many things by design or when there is an appropriate "lull". Rarely I will add an old-timey steel and flint (native chert, actually). Keep meaning to get around to a fire drill, but...

On my own or on family trips I do NOT carry all those items, but a usually:
BIC, HotSpark, match safe, tiny tin of vasoline-soaked cotton balls, and an MRE acc'y pack. Various items not listed have multiple potential uses. Oh, I guess the Sparklite kit has found a permanent home in one of my bags as well. BTW, I've taken to using the HotSpark to light my stove - an aquired quirk that conserves lighter/matches.

And I agree with Hikerdon; I use a liquid fuel stove. The younger Scouts (traditional BSA) will use fires/charcoal in approved locations - mostly for DO cooking and wash-water heating, with 2-burner propane stoves adjunct, although they have done a couple of trips with pop-can stoves. The older Scouts (Venture guys n gals 14 - 20; most are 16-18 at the moment) mostly use liquid fuel stoves (one uses a compressed gas stove) and pop-can stoves; fires are rarely used for cooking.

Scouter Tom