Hi SuZieQ! Here are some quick answers/thoughts:
(1) I am a female
(2) Don't nag your spouse; just go about your business, gaining knowledge, having supplies, stocking up, and you can be the "go to guy" in an emergency. When the elec. goes out at my house, I hear "Dear, where are the candles? Where is the flashlight? Where's the hand-crank radio?" I, of course, know all those answers
(3)Fill your pantry slowly with ready-to-eat meals for short=term and bulk beans 'n rice items for long term.
(4) Your location is similar to mine. I plan on bugging in and "living off the land" if needed. Be sure you have access or plans for water. Learn edible wild plants, put in a garden, be aware of possible supplies around you.

Don't think you have to know it all overnight; you are already ahead by knowing you need to prepare!