I should point out, that much like you expressed in your first post, I completely and totally took all responsibilty and blamed myself for everything for about 2 years.  The wife and I could be driving along in the car and she could tell my mind had drifted on the subject due to my countenance.  It randomly ruined my mood for a while.  It passes.
Sorry if I'm being to ebullient on the topic.  Just struck a chord with me, thats all.  Hopefully you get something out of it.
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