#136963 - 06/20/08 11:35 PM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Dan_McI]
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Sheesh. Y'all don't seem to be up on proper handling.
The Japanese method: Nod and smile, while saying "yes". The aggressor always takes that to mean your agreeing. When in fact "yes" is a just a admitting to hearing what they are saying. Always agree but leave the agreement provisional. Never contradict. Always phrase any possible disagreement as "Yes, but...".
Also there is the classic American variation: "Yes dear". Once again the "yes" means that your listening.
When the admiral speaks you stop whatever your doing, look her in the eyes, pay attention. Women need attention but in return they can often thrive on just being listened to and taken seriously. After she has said her piece give her a smart "Yes" and do what you were going to do anyway.
I thought everyone knew those rules.
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#136987 - 06/21/08 04:15 AM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Art_in_FL]
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Here's an interesting idea. Why not treat women like people.
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#137016 - 06/21/08 04:11 PM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Angel]
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Ive seen DW and DD mentioned many times. What do they stand for?
Jeanette Isabelle
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#137017 - 06/21/08 04:11 PM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Angel]
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Here's an interesting idea. Why not treat women like people. That works for me. Jeanette Isabelle
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I'm not sure whose twisted idea it was to put hundreds of adolescents in underfunded schools run by people whose dreams were crushed years ago, but I admire the sadism. -- Wednesday Adams, Wednesday
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#137022 - 06/21/08 04:31 PM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Jeanette_Isabelle]
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#137023 - 06/21/08 04:32 PM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Jeanette_Isabelle]
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Always have treated women like "people" since by definition that's what they are....
Heck, I even treat men and dogs like people.
Cats, no.
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#137027 - 06/21/08 05:28 PM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Angel]
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I'm all for equality, but one can certainly see that men and women play by different rules during arguments.
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#137043 - 06/21/08 07:54 PM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Mike_H]
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I can honestly say, through experience, that I have learned that different people argue in different ways. It ranges from a female friend of mine who can argue me into the floor using pure logic any day (I really do like her!) to an ex-girlfriend who can argue herself in circles without any outside help from me (I really don’t like her!). To each their own.
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#137051 - 06/21/08 09:19 PM
Mau-Mau
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I still hold by the definition of "people" that does not include cats.
Blast, no disrespect to Oz, but I'm not a big fan.
Causes me no end of grief with the DW/DD coalition, but I was actually relieved when one of the "outside kitties" expired.
I'm not a cold person, I paid to have this kitty spayed (& her offspring neutered) , kept her fed, warm in the winter, fed her kids and kept them the same; but, we have our own beloved pets.
It's oft been said that dogs have owners, and cats have staff...I am not a staff person, I guess.
Current Pet-O-Phile: 2 inside cats (one from northern Cali and one from okie land), dog (breed: attention hound), fish (multiple varieties), and a rat named "hamster".
didn't mean to ramble...but I guess I do miss Mau.
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#137078 - 06/22/08 12:35 AM
Re: Paradigm shift
[Re: Jeanette_Isabelle]
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Unfortunately, in this country atleast, the tendency seems to be for women to treat men as animals who need to be trained. While men treat women as volcano goddess who must be placated but generally ignored. I'd say whatever works for people, but based on what I see on TV, I really doubt it works for anyone.
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