Use a small sewing needle and contrive to restrict how deeply it can penetrate the can. I use a pin vise to hold the needle - choked up so that very little of the needle protrudes from the pin vise. Then I tap the back of the pin vise with a very light hammer (2 oz). This also keeps the exposed needle stiffer and less likely to bend/break. No picture - left the camera at work.

Another sewing needle holder you can try is to force it through a wine bottle cork until enough of it protrudes to make small puncture in the can. I used that technique a couple of times (making KFMs, not alcohol stoves) and it works OK - I just recall that it was fairly difficult to force the needle through the cork.

And the other idea on one of the stove sites is to secure a sewing needle to the side of a small rod (say, 3/8" or 9mm up to about a 1/2" or 12mm diameter) using a screw-type automotive hose clamp. Adjust the position of the needle so that only about 1/8 the needle protrudes beyond the end of the rod

I have not tried this technique, so I cannot report how well it works.
But regardless of what exact model stove you make,
this site has about the best instructions and pictures on how to make the holes in the aluminum can. It's where the pics in this post are linked from.
HTH,
Tom