"...steel S&W bodyguard (649) that with +P loads was the most abusive handgun I have ever fired..."

You should try one with the old 110gr +p+ "Treasury, Load." Quite a kicker.

I currently carry a Kahr MK40, often in a de Santas pocker holster in my right front pocket. No one has spotted it yet. Kahr also makes a "plastic" frame that would be much lighter to carry, but probably bucks a tad more...