If there is a "hands house", rent that with the understanding that the tenant is to watch out for the main house as well. It is watched, but open if you need it. And you can charge premium for the rent, so the property taxes will be largely covered. The only trick is the screening of the tenants.

Got an old friend still in the home town that you can trust? To me, the first parameter, even before routes and water, for a bug out destination is "are you expected there?"

What should I consider if bugging out with an enclosed trailer? With a large family, I could not reasonably carry much long-term bugout gear in the bugout vehicle.

How can/should I harden the trailer to prevent break-ins?

How do I keep the trailer from being stolen in its entirety? Would locks/chains be sufficient?

Could I safely carry enough fuel in the trailer (perhaps 100gal) for a long distance bugout?

How should the trailer be disguised (or can it be disguised) to hide the fact that it contains valuable bugout/survival supplies at a time when the contents would be needed by nearly anyone I encounter? Perhaps load the back of the trailer with frivolous junk so as to obscure the real contents?

What is the possibility that some government official might retain or sieze the contents 'for the greater good'.

Am I increasing the likelyhood of breakdowns by carrying the additional weight of the trailer? Should I add to the weight of the trailer by bringing repair equipment (additional spare tires, replacement belts and hoses, etc)?

A lot of questions, but the one thing I would not do is separate the gear from the people who would need and use it. I might divide the family into two vehicles, each taking their own gear and stores, if I had to.

You don't find enterprise size IT shops in every town though. In the state its in (WV) there are basically no jobs, then the county the farm is in has a terrible school system and I have two kids.

How can/should I harden the trailer to prevent break-ins?

I have hauled trailers that carried thousands of dollars worth of tools. Depending on the trailer there are several ways to harden it against break-ins. one way is to add heavy metal stripps and plates to the inside of the trailer at locking points.

How do I keep the trailer from being stolen in its entirety? Would locks/chains be sufficient?

There are several kinds of locks for the tounge the best ones insert into the area for the ball.

Could I safely carry enough fuel in the trailer (perhaps 100gal) for a long distance bugout?

If your taier has vents cattying fuel in an emergency should be fine, but during normal times check local laws.

How should the trailer be disguised (or can it be disguised) to hide the fact that it contains valuable bugout/survival supplies at a time when the contents would be needed by nearly anyone I encounter? Perhaps load the back of the trailer with frivolous junk so as to obscure the real contents?

disquiseing it is not really an option. Instead of carrying frivolous extras cover important equipment with clothes and lesser important items

What is the possibility that some government official might retain or sieze the contents 'for the greater good'.

Not a real possibility during a local emergency but if it was a large scale emergency the possibility is there.

Am I increasing the likelyhood of breakdowns by carrying the additional weight of the trailer? Should I add to the weight of the trailer by bringing repair equipment (additional spare tires, replacement belts and hoses, etc)?

Some repaire equipment and parts is of course required but don't go over board.
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