John Willis runs Original SOE Gear and will make anything you want out of any color Cordura you want, even pink. He got his start long ago making custom web gear for SEALs in California. All report are that his nylon gear is the toughest out there. But, 1) wait times for his gear are very long and 2) you will pay for his quality work.

Another possible option for you is the fact that a lot of today's tactical nylon is available in various shades of khaki or coyote brown, which isn't quite as militaristic as camo or black.