yep, having kids puts a different perspective on it. personally, there's no way in hell the wife is coming back in, nor would I expect her to let me in. I'll go further and say, even if we didn't have kids, I would not want her to open the door... I would be committing murder and her suicide.

Regardless how much I begged and pleaded, she would have the right to go on and live life. I am no one to take that away from her, only she can do that.

Now let me turn this around. If she was the one outside, I still wouldn't let her in. I have just as much right to live a normal life than everyone else. And, for her to come begging and pleading, knowing well she is condemning me to certain death, is thoughtless and selfish and I don't need to be with anyone like that.