I was going to add something, but decided instead to simply state that, until you are really ready to stop thinking as a potential victim and adopt a different attitude towards your fellow man, that is pretty much all you can be. You just can't help yourself until you cross the threshold. It is like quitting smoking. You can't do it until you make a willful determination to forever abandon that life, that there is no longer any choice; no turning back to it, ever. Until then, nothing out there can do it for you; not gum, not pills, not therapy. The only way you change without it being a willful commitment is to be completely removed from it for a long time, to be forced to face life without that comfort.

Combat hardened soldiers can never be victims of violence, only casualties. That is the best perspective I can share. I hope it makes some sense.