Unfortunately, I know entirely too many women in the same (or worse) situations. Why men freak out and leave after kids come is a subject too vast for this forum, however, in terms of economics, it's a fast path to bankruptcy for the women who are left behind.

At this point, hanging on to the house is a Bad Idea. While the legal principles and responsibilities related to "abandonment" in a divorce are pretty clear, the reality is that it can take years for it all to settle out. Get out now, you can't afford it. If you can set a target to live with another family or friend for 4 months (and by all means, set a departure date!) now it the time to do it. Sell everything you can - cash is king now, you know that, but it's ever-more difficult to maintain the cash-flow.

I've posted here that fiscal preparedness is the key to survival in our modern culture, and that's a fact.

Now here's something you may not realize - but there are plenty of places that would let you bring baby to work with you. No kidding, just ask. There's a health food store near us and for the last 10 years, there's been someone with a baby in a playpen behind the counter. This is a good time to be looking for part-time work, and total honesty at the job application process is a good idea. People will help you.