Martin,

You certainly don't need me or any one else telling you this, but...

... how you handled this situation paints a clear picture of the kind of dad you are. When danger was present and there wasn't time to talk, you took immediate charge and went into "protect mode". Then when calmer heads set in, you talked with him and together came up with a system that works for you both. That may not seem a big deal to you, but trust me that is very rare in the world today.

The question you are posing is a good one, but I think you know that the real power of what you have already come up with together is almost independent of the specifics of the stars. That can always be changed as needed with another talk.

As one dad to another... your son is as lucky to have you as you are him. Kudos.