kc2ixe -
...snip... Related: Unpleasant though it is, when the family member is terminally-ill, good idea early-on to locate and review other documents like wills, trusts (and pour-over will), life insurance policies, deeds, bank account/safe deposit info, durable POA etc. to make sure a) you locate everything, and b) all are legally up to par.
You mentioned hospice. A plug for those folks — they do amazing work.
Dan
+1 on those docs - they were, and still are in the file cabinet behind me - and since I was a teen, knew where they were in the house - in the fireproof bankers file cabinet